Why do some men seem to have all the "luck" in attracting a woman's attention and making a connection; getting dates and being sexually irresistible to women?

Those guys learned how to approach beautiful women with confidence; how to get and keep any woman's attention; and how to keep women sexually satisfied.

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Have you ever met the ice queen? The closer? The Top Gun foxy lady who seems like she could shoot down any and all comers – and generally does so before things get so far as 'hi?'

You can learn a lot from these women. They are generally beautiful, very sharp, very confident. Chances are they are successful in their chosen field. Chances are most men wet their pants in a combination of desire and fear just being near one.

Chances are also great that, if you can get past the initial frost, you'll find a COMPLETELY different person underneath.

As a matter of fact, I'm giving you an assignment. Next time you see one, go up to her and say this: "Excuse me, I don't want to bother you, but I know you are a warmer and more sensitive person underneath your harsh exterior. I'm not trying to pick you up, but I'm trying to learn; why do you present this face to the world when you have a much friendlier one?"

If you can do that, congratulations. You already are gutsier than 99% of the men out there, and that kind of gumption will eventually be rewarded.

Just probably not this time. That's alright. This is a LEARNING mission – and you'll do better if you consider MOST of your interactions with ladies the same way. It takes away the hard sell. It tends to relax women.

Oh, there's a chance you'll run into a lady who simply is a born bitch, in which case look out. More likely she'll quickly size you up, and decide whether she wants to talk or not.

If the initial gambit is enough to get past her guard, you'll learn some interesting things. She'll likely complain about men ALWAYS PESTERING her, ANNOYING her, and generally getting in her way.

She just wants to live her life, but it keeps getting interrupted by these ANNOYING guys who say things like "Gosh you’re beautiful" and expect a date and more in return.

So she developed a technique. She put on the ice mask, and most men get intimidated and turn heel. If she feels an uncomfortable stare, one glare can reduce a man to shoe study. Sure, sometimes it gets lonely, but she has a close group of friends who made it through her guard either because they were bold, exceptional, both, or caught her at the right time.

You know what, I'm probably not telling you anything you haven't thought about yourself. But getting it from the horse's mouth, if you can pull it off, has a special quality.

Something you might NOT know, though, is that ALL beautiful women have the same guard up. They all dislike being annoyed by men, although many don't go to the extreme of trying to shut out the world.

She might smile and laugh little patronizing laughs and SEEM open, but if you aren't penetrating her skin and creating ATTRACTION, she's just being polite. It's not going anywhere.

At least the ice queens are honest about that.

When women are approached by men and they find it annoying, yes, some of that comes from being genuinely annoyed. But MOST of it comes from BOREDOM.

They've been approached by hundreds of guys the past MONTH and most of them say the same safe things over and over. "You're stunning." "Can I buy you a drink?" "I'd like to take you out." "Is your father a thief?"

It's flattering at first, and does continue to be in a way. But it gets OLD in a hurry. So ALL women - even those less than gorgeous - come up with a system for disqualifying guys from the mate category in a hurry.

Some just try to cut all contact to a minimum. The ice queen.

Some nod and smile appropriately while thinking about what they'll wear tomorrow, waiting for the right moment to extricate themselves. The polite send-off.

Some play a game with men, enjoy using them for whatever they can get, with no intention of getting romantic. The player. Or tease.

Some actually try to stay engaged with everyone. They invariably go insane, as anyone would.

There are plenty of other types of beauties as well, but they ALL have a guard to protect them from the swarms of horny boring men that plague them.

Why am I telling you this? It's not to get you scared of all beautiful women, although that might be a natural reaction.

I'm telling you this because there IS a way to never deal with the guard, to bypass it or bring it down before it really ever revs up.

There is a way to get noticed.

Think back to our hypothetical conversation with the ice queen. What is it that she hates? The ANNOYANCE of intrusions by BORING men that waste her time.

Simple then isn't it? DON'T BE BORING.

There are thousands of ways to not be boring. You can challenge her, make her laugh, delve into psychological truths that she doesn't know she transmits... anything.

The KEY is not to say things she hears EVERY DAY.

Better yet, if you can tell her something she's NEVER heard, you'll get her attention.

Remember the opener we talked about for getting an ice queen to open up? The surprise and jolt she'll get from that approach will often be enough to get her talking to you. And she WOULDN'T talk to you if she didn't find you in some way INTERESTING.

Interest and attraction are brothers of one another. They are drinking buddies. They are inseparable. Sure, you might occasionally see one without the other, but it's the exception.

Say that you've got an ice queen opening up a little bit. You then say something like "I know it can be very lonely being a beautiful woman, having to shut yourself off, to protect yourself." She MIGHT get defensive. More likely you'll discover a COMPLETELY different woman. One who just melted. One who is ready to SEE you.

That's what I said. So often a man gets discouraged because he feels a woman rejected him, but she never actually SAW him. He never said anything to distinguish himself from all the other men a 10 has had to deal with over the years, so he's nothing but a category. He's an attempt, a pick-up style, a CLICHE.

If you can grab her attention early, you can separate yourself from that pack. THEN, if you can be funny, confident, relaxed and trigger her attraction in more conventional ways, well, you just might have a relationship with a model on your hands.

There is no such thing as a woman that's out of your league, or at least there doesn't have to be. It's men's limiting belief in the myth of leagues that creates the reality, as they get uptight, insecure, and play it SAFE whenever they work up the nerve to approach a knockout.

In other words, they get themselves so worried about shooting high, they shoot themselves in the foot. That's why when you were younger – and maybe even now – it's always the women you aren't attracted to that are most attracted to you. You aren't playing for them, and you probably aren't playing it safe – you're being INTERESTING.

Not every Lyle Lovett will marry a Julia Roberts, but PLENTY of AMAZING women date men that, from photos or brief encounters, aren't particularly impressive.

Don't see that as frustrating. See it as inspirational.

For most women, it doesn't MATTER that much what you look like, what your job is, or all the other qualifications our conscious mind uses to construct an ideal mate.

What MATTERS is if you trigger attraction in her limbic brain. And the only thing that can really stop you is if YOU cement a woman's guard by being BORING.

Boring is worse than insulting. Not that I suggest it, but you can dig yourself out of a hole created by being insulting. All it takes is some well-placed humor.

But there is no recovery from boring. You won't get the hottest girl. You won't get many at all. You might get the mousy librarian, but she's likely too imaginative for a snorer.

If you can be INTERESTING, though – that means NOT playing it safe, NOT tiptoeing around women, but letting your WIT FLY – then that whole 'league' myth disappears. You're in the big leagues now. There are none higher.

Of course you might be worried that you AREN'T very interesting, or aren't particularly witty or funny. DON'T.

EVERYONE is interesting if in the right context – you just need to learn how to create your context. Humor, contrary to popular belief, can be learned (that's why little kids aren't usually very funny, at least in a laugh WITH way). Wit can start out as nothing more than good preparation.

If you want to learn how to be the intriguing gentleman that all the ladies want to know more about, you can spend years of trial and error. Or you can go on a month-long expedition to mount K-2 and figure out how to weave a good tale out of your experiences.

Or you can learn a few simple techniques that I've developed over years of my own investigations into attraction. For less than the cost of one nice date, I can share my own experiences and what I've found works best in different situations. I'll help you develop your confident, relaxed, INTERESTING and WITTY side. Check out my site, Seduction Science, and see which ebook or audio CD feels right for where you are in your relationships.

Until next time.

Derek Vitalio

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