We will begin with a question.

 

Have you ever met a girl you liked, and despite your best efforts, you got stuck in the "lets just be friends" category?

 

Do you know the reason for this occurrence?

 

Chances are it was because you did not know how to flirt properly with the woman.

 

Understand:  Flirting is a very important part of the attraction process, and if you do it wrong (or worse yet, not at all!), the odds of blowing your chance with the girl go up significantly.

 

So why is flirting so important?

 

The answer is simple:  Flirting is the process by which sexual tension is created!

 

No sexual tension equals no attraction, when there is not attraction, what does this make you?

 

Yes, that is right; it makes you simply a friend.

 

Your attraction enhances when you know how to flirt with women properly.

 

Flirting is a lot of fun and not so much a secret as some might consider, however when done incorrectly it will not work.

 

Flirting with a woman is an art form. Flirting is the ability to communicate the romantic interest you have for a woman, while being subtle about the subject.

 

These are mixed signals.

 

Your words communicate something different than your actions are communicating.

 

Here are some common mistakes most guys make when flirting with girls:

 

MISTAKE #1:  They Are Way Too Obvious

 

Too many guys get excited about the women they are attracted to, and will come out and say exactly what they are feeling.  What they don't realize is that when presented with this information, the girl is then forced to make a judgment, right then and there, about how she feels about THEM.

 

And if you haven't laid the proper groundwork beforehand, chances are the girl is going to reject you.

 

MISTAKE #2:  They Aren't Obvious Enough!

 

On the flip side of that coin are the guys who communicate NO INTEREST AT ALL, yet in their minds they think that the girl should know how they are feeling.  Then, when they make their move, the girl is surprised because up to this point, she had no idea the guy was interested in her!

 

MISTAKE #3:  Relying On Words Rather Than Actions

 

A great deal of flirting has to do with what you say, but the more powerful techniques are NON-VERBAL body language stuff.  Little things like an eyebrow raise, a head tilt, or a wicked smile can give new meaning to an otherwise benign remark.

 

MISTAKE #4:  Taking Themselves Too Seriously

 

Flirting, when done right, is light and fun.  When guys try and make flirting more serious romantic gestures, the tension begins to break down.

 

If you're not having fun when flirting - and more importantly, if the girl isn't having fun - then you are doing something WRONG.

 

Although, there are other mistakes, these few should give you some ideas. Would you like to learn the proper way to begin flirting?

 

You're going to want to use as much sexual innuendo as you can.  This is a great way to flirt.  But the key here is to be SUBTLE.

 

Here is an example, if you are in a bar and the woman with you orders a drink and then asks if you want something, you can jokingly say, You are not trying to get me intoxicated so you can take advantage of me, are you? Say all this of course, with a wink and a nod.

 

This lets her know you are interested without saying it outright. Flirting is implication and it is fun and lighthearted.

 

Another example may be, when a woman makes a sexy remark, you say to her, Stop trying to tempt me, you vixen, you know I never kiss a woman on the first date.

 

Consider how this works.

 

As you begin flirting more and more, you begin to get a bit more obvious about your interests, although you never really step over that line.

 

You will notice how the attraction between you and the woman begins to build. Then one day you find that a harmless bit of flirting has turned into seduction.

 

Now the real fun begins.

 

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